Pretzel Party: Dance, Dance, DANCE!


*All images courtesy of Lisa Rice Photography unless otherwise noted.

Mr P and I love to dance, especially at wedding receptions.  We burned up the dance floor at our wedding reception in Seattle and absolutely loved our band.  I was looking forward to having a DJ at our Midwest party because that meant a wider range of music.


We provided our DJ, Jason of Quatro Systems, with a list of music with must have songs bolded. I even ripped MP3’s of some of the more obscure songs that I was certain he wouldn’t have. At the end of the night he was really surprised by the crowd reaction to some of our more obscure songs. Our must include songs during cocktail hour and dinner:

  • The Promise-Tracy Chapman
  • Sweet Adeline-Elliott Smith
  • Fade Into You-Mazzy Star
  • You can’t always get what you want – rolling stones
  • Interstate Love Song-Stone Temple Pilots
  • More Bad Times- The Presidents Of The United States Of America
  • Wonderwall (Album Version) -Oasis
  • Waltz #2 (XO)- Elliott Smith
  • Bottle up and Explode!- Elliott Smith
  • Beautiful Day-U2
  • For Now People- Eating People
  • Middle School Love Song-Popple
  • Without You It’s Just Kulele- Popple
  • How It Should Be (Sha Sha)-Ben Kweller
  • Commerce, TX -Ben Kweller
  • Darling-People Eating People
  • Use Somebody- Kings Of Leon
  • Revelry-Kings Of Leon
  • Natural Born Lover- Sharon Jones & The Dap-Kings
  • Jackson-Johnny Cash & June Carter Cash


Our must have dancing songs:

  • Don’t Stop Believing – Journey
  • All You Need is Love – Beatles
  • Sweet Home Alabama – Lynyrd Skynyrd
  • Do You Love Me – The Contours
  • Aime- Pure Praire League
  • Sweet Caroline, Neil Diamond
  • Lets go Crazy – Prince
  • It’s Like That – Run DMC
  • It takes Two – Rob Base & DJ E-Z Rock
  • Imma Be – Black Eyed Peas
  • I’m On a Boat (feat. T-Pain) – The Lonely Island (Dedicated to Mike!)
  • This Is How We Do It- Montell Jordan
  • I Gotta Feeling- Black Eyed Peas
  • Come on Eileen- Dexy’s midnight runners
  • Time Warp – Rocky Horror Picture Show
  • Proud Mary – CCR
  • Bust a Move -Young MC
  • Blister In the Sun – Violent Femmes
  • Sherry – Frankie Valli & The Four Seasons (dedicated to MIL Pretzel)
  • Somewhere over the rainbow, Israel Kamakawiwo’ole
  • Lump- Presidents of the United States of America
  • Video killed the radio star- The Presidents of the United states (Important that it be this version)


Mr P and I sang along to almost every song played. My heart melts when he sings to me while slow dancing. *swoon*



We didn’t have many kids at our Seattle wedding. I was so happy to have a whole slew of kiddos at the party.

 Mr P’s cousins cut in and I was taken for a spin by this little guy…


…while Mr P danced with his cousin.  Adorable!


This little girl in particular was a hoot! She danced her little butt off all night and collapsed on the dance floor.


I took my second cousin for a spin and ended up with a line of little girls wanting to be spun around in a circle.  Impossible to say no to such cute faces!


I am sure the kids all slept well that night because they owned the dance floor!


Anniversary Dance

All of the married couples crowded the dance floor to and swayed to “After all These Years” by Journey.



One by one they sat down as the years were called out.


In the end Mr P’s grandparents were the only ones dancing.  We can only wish to have such a long and happy marriage!

Dessert Treats

If we were going to dance the night away we needed some nourishment.  Our guests munched on mini desserts and chocolate covered strawberries. Yum


Parent Dances Revisited


One of my Dad’s sisters and her husband were able to attend our Seattle wedding and reception.  His other sister wasn’t able to be there. My Aunt and Uncle were surprised that my Dad took dance lessons and wow’ed them with his dance skills for our Daddy Daughter dance. I am sure my Aunt who couldn’t go to the wedding didn’t believe that my dad was such a good dancer.  So they requested the DJ play our Daddy Daughter dance song, “You’ve got a friend” by James Taylor. We were a little rusty but worked out all the kinks pretty well.


We had requested “Sherry” for MIL Pretzel. Later in the evening Mr P sang to her while he spun her around the room.


Rock out!

Ok, ok, the kids weren’t the only ones owning the dance floor.



It was hard to mingle with so many great tunes playing.  I wish I could remember what song had come on when I decided to summon Mr P back to the dance floor, but it was likely something by the Presidents of the United States of America.


I gave a big whistle…


… and flagged him down like I was hailing a cab.


He was just as excited about the song as I was!


He sealed it with a kiss.


We paid homage to our Purdue days by gathering around for “The Piano Man”…


…arm in arm we sang along.


BIL M did his best Andy Sandberg to “I’m on a Boat”.


My family knows how to party! I believe this group is 90% my side of the family. I love how they like to mix it up on the dance floor!


My Aunt and Uncle gathered around for “Aimee”, while Matt sang the words of my song to me.


We ended the night singing Sweet Caroline, a family  tradition.


We said our goodbyes to family and friends…


… and clean up commenced.

Whew!  I am exhausted just recapping the night.  It was so great to see our families and dancing our butts off.  Our DJ really liked some of our “offbeat” song requests.  If I had to suggest just one lesser known song to add to a wedding playlist it would be “Video Killed the Radio Star” by the Presidents.

by PresidentsRock

What is your offbeat must play song?

November 30, 2011 at 2:13 pm Leave a comment

Pretzel Party: Gathering Together

I had no sooner put the finishing touches on the details and on my makeup when guests started to arrive.  Mr P has a huge family, many of who we hadn’t seen since the prior Christmas and we hadn’t seen my Dad’s family for longer than that.  The beginning of the reception was a whirlwind of hugs and hellos.





It made me giggle that Mr Pretzel got carded (its because he shaved that day!).  We were glad that we splurged and serve Leinenkugels.


Thinking up tough questions for our newlywed game.


Mr P and I welcomed our guests and shared with them some stories from our first 4 months of marriage.


My FIL led us in a blessing.


It was the day after Thanksgiving so we went BBQ style.


While our guests ate Mr P and I played a Newlywed version of the Shoe Game.


Most of the time we were in agreement (hence raising the same shoe) but sometimes we were not.


Up next: Epic Dancing

November 24, 2011 at 10:34 am Leave a comment

Pretzel Party: Details, Details

About a month ago I celebrated my 2 year anniversary as a Weddingbee blogger.  I figured since the 1 year anniversary of our hometown reception is just days away that now would be the perfect time to wrap things up.

Our Seattle wedding and reception in July 2010 was amazing and we were blessed to also be able to have a second reception November 2010 in my husband’s hometown of Fort Wayne Indiana.  My mother-in-law was an indispensable partner in planning the party.  The days leading up to the party she helped me craft silk flower arrangements and put together the centerpieces. Fellow Bee and dear friend Mrs Bunny drove in from Ohio to photograph the event.  All images courtesy of Lisa Rice Photography unless otherwise noted.


The party was the day after Thanksgiving at Ceruti’s Diamond Room.  Our guests were welcomed by this decidedly “Pretzel” sign.  Because I wasn’t a bride- we’d been married four months already- I had no qualms about doing the set up myself with help from Mr P and my in-laws. Of course this meant running around like a chicken with my head cut off trying to get ready at the last-minute- but whatever. It made me appreciate my amazing DOC from the Seattle wedding even more. All of the little details came together so nicely.


As they entered the lobby guests were instructed to find their seat with a treat.


The maple sugar candy favors were a hit!


Our guest book table sported another family photo window. We loved the original so much we had my in laws go to the local re-store and pick up another vintage window.  This time I applied vinyl lettering identifying each of the photos. We simply brought the photo guest book from our wedding and had our guests add their well wishes.



Guests also enjoyed getting a peek at our wedding photo album. We also recycled some decorations from the wedding, the M & A and mini-me cupcake toppers.

With splashes of red, orange, goldenrod and aqua the banquet hall took on a more rustic vibe.




Our cocktail tables were livened up with some burlap and canning jar votives. The signs advertised the photo booth and also the ask the newlywed game that we would play later.



The lounge was sufficiently rustic.


And the centerpieces were a great



The family table was perhaps my favorite feature.  My MIL taught me how to arrange silk flowers and between the two of us we made these gorgeous arrangements just days before the party.  We gifted them to my aunts and Matt’s grandma at the end of the night.



Every last detail was in place. It was time for me to squeeze into my wedding dress one last time.


I did my makeup right there in the lady’s room at the banquet hall.  Funny story about my hair.  At the last-minute I decided not to do own my hair and booked an appointment at my MIL’s salon.  I told my stylist, Phyllis, that I wanted loose curls.  Apparently the word “loose” got lost in translation because she proceeded to “Shirley Temple curl” my hair which took for-ev-ah. To add insult to injury, she shellacked my curls with hair spray.  I smiled nervously as I tried to loosen them up by running my fingers through my hair.  The best I could do was pull it half up/half down.  When Mr Pretzel saw my  nest of curls he said “What the hell happened to your hair?” I answered him a matter-of-factly “Her name was Phyllis”.


At least I had my chucks, I was ready to rock.

Up next the party gets going!

November 23, 2011 at 4:53 pm Leave a comment

Gifting Talents

Hiya! Just popping my head back in to share a really great experience that I had at a last-minute backyard wedding a couple of months ago. I realized how much society is wrapped up in the idea that weddings take a long time to plan and cost a lot of money when I had the privilege of attending a wedding that was planned in just a few weeks time, was inexpensive, and was full of love and joy.


It started when my husband’s coworker, Jamie, asked him if we were doing anything on August 20th. He replied that we weren’t and Jamie said, “Dru and I are getting married, we’d like you to come.”

A bit of back story, Dru and Jamie had been together for close to 10 years. He had asked her to marry him a few times and she had said no each time until this summer when she looked at him and said, “let’s get married”.

He got our mailing address and a few days later a nice homemade invitation arrived. The invitation featured some of Dru’s artwork and asked us to bring ourselves, a dish to share, and a flower from our garden.  Our flowers made up the beautiful bouquet she carried as her son walked her down the aisle.


The wedding was in their beautiful backyard overlooking Puget Sound. In the weeks between the day the decided to get married and the wedding Jamie worked hard on the backyard and house, getting it ready for the big day.


The food was wonderful, everyone brought something for the grill and a dish to pass.



Jamie and Dru reached out to friends with talents.  For instance the cake was made and decorated on site by a loved one and the entertainment was provided by work/motorcycle riding friends who happen to have a classic rock band.


The invitation indicated that they didn’t want gifts, but knowing that they likely hadn’t hired a photographer I brought my camera with me to the wedding hoping to get some good photos.  They had also asked another friend, Mark, to take photos.  Between the two of us we were able to capture their day quite well.  Mark sent me his unedited photos. I spent a lot of time editing both sets of photos and selecting the best of the bunch for an album for Jamie and Dru.  IMGP5547

I ordered a 8″ x 8″ 50 page book from AdoramaPix. I used them for our photo guest book and a book I gifted Mr P on our wedding day.  What can I say, I love the thick photo pages.IMGP5548

The pages are printed on archival quality Kodak Lustre photo paper. Adorama’s unique binding process means that a two page spread is printed on one piece of photo paper- eliminating the gutter or seam.  Pretty!IMGP5539

To say that Jamie and Dru were over the moon for this gift is an understatement.  They have enjoyed showing off their big day through Mark and my photos and let me know they will treasure the album in the years to come.  The real gift for me was to be there an experience a simple, joy filled wedding with people we care about.

Have you ever “gifted” your services or talents to a bride a groom? Are you using friendors at your wedding?

November 2, 2011 at 1:45 pm Leave a comment

Losing It Together

Hi there!  I know I said I was going to take the summer off of wedding blogging but I wanted to share some recent successes that Mr P have achieved.  Mr Pretzel and I recently lost some weight together and it got me thinking: Why didn’t we do this before the wedding?

Before the wedding, both Mr P and I were about 20 lbs heavier than our ideal.  We had both gained the weight during our courtship due to our mutual love of beer and cooking.  We ate healthy, but our portion sizes were a bit too big and our activity level dropped the year that we were planning the wedding.  I was worried about juggling a diet, workout routine, and wedding planning on top of our already busy lives so I made a decision for myself and ultimately for both of us- No trying to lose weight before the wedding.


Photo by Rocktographer & Friend Jason Tang

After the wedding our busy lives continued to be busy.  We cooked a lot of yummy meals in our first 6 months and then slowly we started to eat out more and cooking less.  Soon another 10 lbs had crept up.  I was the heaviest I had ever been and I did not like the way I felt. Inspired by Mrs Avocado & Mrs Penguin’s weight loss decided to commit myself to losing 30 lbs.  Almost immediately I realized that if I was going to do this I needed my husband’s support.  We needed to do this together.

This winter we both had attended a wellness seminar on the science of weight loss. One of the recommended books was Volumetrics by Barbara Rolls PhD.

Volumetrics $10.85 on Amazon

The principles in this book are sound.  Some food, like vegetables and soups have a lower calorie per gram ratio.  Adding more vegetables to your food or volumizing your food allows you to be satisfied with fewer calories.  There aren’t a lot of rules or foods that are forbidden and it just makes sense.  Mr P and I started to be more mindful of our eating but what we really needed was structure.

In mid April we made the decision to give Jenny Craig a try.  Jenny Craig uses the volumetrics approach and their meals gave us much needed structure.   We their order food every 2 weeks and for the first half of our weight loss we exclusively at their menu plan (JC meals + Fresh fruits and vegetables).  Since the half way point we have transitioned to cooking more of our own meals (1-2 days of meals a week) in preparation for moving to maintenance.  We have a phone consultation with our awesome JC consultant every week. Mr P and I talk with her together about how the week went, challenges that we had and what is coming up in the next week.


The Jenny Craig diet has me at about 1200 calories per day and Mr P at 1500 calories per day.  In addition to diet we challenged ourself to increase our daily activity through increasing our daily step count.  On a work day prior to our diet I would normally walk around 5K steps, Mr P around 7K.  We challenged ourself through a work wellness program to do 7,500 and 10,000 steps respectively.


During our 6 week challenge my average was 9K steps per day- WOOT!  We started walking places much more.  We walk to the coffee shop, restaurants, grocery store, post office, pharmacy, etc  when time allows.

The results?  Since April we have steadily been dropping weight.


In our experience, weight loss becomes noticeable to others around the 15 lb mark.  As of today I have lost 20 lbs and have 10 more to go.





Most of my weight came from my bust and my belly. I was happy to see both areas shrink as my weight gain had pushed me into the 32 DDD/F bra size, a size that is annoyingly had to find. I also see the weight loss it in my face and my arms.  My size 8 clothes fit perfectly now and some of my pants are getting a bit roomy.

Mr P is 2 lbs away from his goal of 35 lbs lost.  His transformation has been absolutely amazing.  I knew that men tend to lose weight quicker than womenbut I never would have thought he would have lost it so quickly.  He literally has no pants that fit now. Every pair of jeans is falling off of him, even the size 32s that I picked up a couple weeks ago.matt

There are pro’s and con’s to doing a diet plan like this.  Mr P and I typically didn’t eat much processed foods.  It was an adjustment to eating 3 prepared meals a day but it was balanced with lots of fresh fruits and vegetables.  It’s easy to plan out food for the day and food is quick to prepare.  For us the cost was a wash because prior to the diet we were spending a fair amount dining out and buying organic local foods.

The best part of this has been doing it together.  We have a built-in support plan and are good about keeping each other on track.  Mr P is going to be transitioning off soon but I know he’ll be there cheering me until my last lb is lost.  I guess you can chalk this up to one wedding regret- I wish we had tried this before the wedding.

Are you and you SO working together towards fitness and weight loss goals?

August 8, 2011 at 8:33 pm Leave a comment

Twisted Together: Inspiration vs Reality

I love when bees compare their inspiration boards to the real wedding.  It is fun to see how inspiration changes over time and how things are executed.  It was a lot of fun to look back at my first inspiration board and see how our wedding stacked up.

Credits: Cupcake toppers; Birdcage Veil; Pew LanternsDressLightsAmore StudiosDahliasParis Hilton SpelledConverse All-Stars
Cupcake photo by Mrs Cherry Pie {Persimmon Images}, all other photos by Amore Studios

Things that didn’t change from inspiration to execution:

  • Colors
  • Cupcake toppers
  • Veil
  • Aisle decor
  • Chuck Taylors
  • Photos with vintage vehicle
  • Wedding shoes

Things that changed

  • Flowers (Dahlias weren’t in season)
  • Although we used the pattern from my inspiration board, we shortened my dress, added a aqua and lace midriff and created more of a sweetheart neckline.

So, how do you think we did?

That, my friends, is the end of the Twisted Together recaps.  I’ve been blogging on Weddingbee since October 2009 (whoa!) and this weekend Mr Pretzel and I will celebrate our one year anniversary.

As crazy as it sounds, I am not finished with Weddingbee.  November 2010 we had a rustic hometown reception that I am dying to share with you guys but for now this Pretzel is taking the summer off from wedding blogging. So this isn’t me saying “Goodbye” it’s me saying “See ya soon!”

Until then, you can find me over at Parker Haus Roles where Mr Pretzel and I negotiate life as newlyweds.

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July 7, 2011 at 12:32 pm Leave a comment

Twisted Together: All The Small Things

As I am wrapping up the last posts of Twisted Together: Pretzel recaps I keep finding detail photos that I hadn’t worked into our story. Detail photos are one of my favorite parts of wedding photos and it became clear that I would need to do a detail post to catch some of the fun touches and elements of our wedding.

Photos by Amore Studios

Ring a ding ding! My engagement ring is the Tiffany setting by Tiffany & Co. Our wedding bands are the matching Tiffany wedding bands (the men’s version has been discontinued).

Image courtesy of wedding guest, Mrs Cherry Pie {Persimmon Images}

Mr P is a LEGO fan. He leant his LEGO Space Needle to our cupcake table decor.

Image courtesy of wedding guest, Mrs Cherry Pie {Persimmon Images}

Our DIY Chalkboard instructs folks to sign our photo guest book. We used a combination of childhood photos, engagement photos and pictures from our courtship in the guest book. I did the layout and had the book printed by Adorama Pix (hands down my favorite photo printing company).

Image courtesy of wedding guest, Mrs Cherry Pie {Persimmon Images}

Our wedding window. *Swoon* We purchased this window at the Re Store and arranged black and white photos of our parents and grandparents weddings behind the glass. In the center pane we use one of our favorite engagement photo image. I still have to print on of our wedding photos to replace the engagement photo and this window is going to hang in our bedroom.

Image courtesy of wedding guest, Mrs Cherry Pie {Persimmon Images}

Our birdcage was perfect for all of the gift cards. The gift table decor was a little sparse so we moved our initials from the cake table.

Image courtesy of wedding guest, Mrs Cherry Pie {Persimmon Images}

Like many brides these days, we also provided flip flops for our guests with sore feet. I was happy to only find one pair left (in my size- yay!) so I assume they were a big hit.

Image courtesy of wedding guest, Mrs Cherry Pie {Persimmon Images}

We used our RSVP coasters at the bar as drink coasters. Who am I kidding, we’re still using these things around the house almost a year later. The RSVP coasters are one of my favorite wedding details.

Image courtesy of wedding guest, Mrs Cherry Pie {Persimmon Images}

I know I’ve shown them before, but I can’t get enough of the moustaches! We put the parasols from our bridesmaids portraits with the photo booth props

Image courtesy of wedding guest, Mrs Cherry Pie {Persimmon Images}

Our friends and families like to party. I looked into providing transportation but it didn’t seem to make much sense with a big mixture of locals and OOT guests. Instead we provided Taxi cards at the bar with the number of a reputable taxi service. I know a couple of guests opted to take advantage of this and I am glad they did.

Photos by Amore Studios

Another favorite detail was our favors. Our Beer Bread Mix was displayed in a large beverage tub with a sign urging our guests to “take one for the road”.

Coming up next: Pretzel Recaps wrap up with a look at how inspiration stacked up to reality?

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July 5, 2011 at 9:35 am Leave a comment

Twisted Together: Shirts-Off Dance-Off

After our photographers left the party just kept going.  The dance floor got crowded, the band was rockin’ and our ushers decided to create a little mischief with a shirts-off-dance-off.  Yes you read that right, a shirts-off dance-off.  I kinda knew this might happen and I blogged about it in January 2010.

Bow ties with suspenders—cute! Ummm no, that thought lasted as long as it took Mr Pretzel to remind me that the probability of Usher B or C (mostly C) removing a shirt a la Patrick Swayze and Chris Farley on SNL increased exponentially with bow ties… suspenders were tempting enough…

…We aren’t entirely sure that straight ties will prevent our Ushers from going shirtless. When I retold this story to my Mom she said, “Well not at the ceremony! At the reception it would be OK, but not at the ceremony.” REALLY Mom? Funniest quote ever!

Yeah, Mama P and I had (months earlier) given the ok for these types of shenanigans to take place.  Usher B and Usher C didn’t forget either.  I took a break from the dancing and headed outside.  I stumbled upon our Ushers in the process of taking their shirts off.  “what are you guys up to?” I inquired.

The shirtless suspects earlier in the day. Photo by Amore Studios

My question was greeted with an “oh crap, we got caught” look.  “But, But, you said we could” they stammered.  They looked so hopeful I couldn’t help but smile and say, “Yes I did. Go for it”.

Ushers B and C rejoined the party sans shirt with suspenders.  Immediately they were the hit of the party. Come on, they were shirtless and they had fabulous dance moves.

Our band brought our shirtless duo on stage for a shirts-off dance-off.

Usher B uses his suspenders well, bonus points!

I think the Dance-Off was officially a tie.  Both guys collected $3 each which quickly squashed any shirts-off career dreams that they had.  Their then girlfriends (now wife and fiance!) shook their heads during the spectacle.  This past May Mr P was an usher in B’s wedding.  C was a groomsman and the Shirts-Off Dance-Off tradition was kept alive by C and Mr P.  Usher C is getting married in December and I hope this tradition continues.

Our band played on last song, Separate Ways (Worlds Apart) by Journey.

Separate Ways by Journey uploaded by Nymphetamin13 on Youtube

Uncle J approves of all of our music choices!

As the song wrapped up Mr P and I said goodbye to our guests, got into our town-car, and headed to the hotel.  The next morning we boarded a seaplane for British Columbia  which you can read about here, here, here, and here.

*All photos are guest photos unless otherwise noted

Coming up next: A look at some small details and then how did inspiration stack up to reality?

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June 30, 2011 at 8:33 am Leave a comment

Twisted Together: You are my Sweetheart

Photo by Amore Studios

I know what you are thinking… “It’s garter time!”  Except we weren’t doing a garter toss.  Sure I rigged up a bouquet toss for my cousin but i couldn’t produce a garter out of thin air.  So why was I sitting on a chair in the middle of the dance floor?

Photo by Amore Studios

Well you see, some of Mr Pretzel’s buddies wanted to serenade me.  Whohoo!  I had first seen this done at our friend W & V’s wedding.  (V is second from the right in the photo above).  Mr Pretzel was an Evan Scholar at Purdue and its tradition for the  guys to sing the Sweetheart song to the bride of another scholar.

Guest Video

I’m glad that Mr P’s  friends decided to carry on this tradition.  Let me tell you, these guys are the sweetest in the world and three of the four traveled from the Chicago area to be with us on our big day.  For my first serenade experience, it was pretty cool- a little strange having four guys sing to you but pretty cool nonetheless.

Image courtesy of wedding guest, Mrs Cherry Pie {Persimmon Images}

The sweetheart song marked the end of the time with our photographers but the party continued for a bit longer.  Let me tell you, things got interesting!

Up Next: A “Shirts-Off Dance-Off” breaks out.

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June 28, 2011 at 8:59 am Leave a comment

Twisted Together: How to Deal with Wedding Crashers

I would like to take a scheduled break from Pretzel Recaps for a little tutorial on how to deal with wedding crashers.  Before our wedding I did have some fears about crashers.  We had an unfortunate situation where a messy divorce caused us to not invite a couple people after they had already received Save the Dates (horrible I know…).  I was afraid that the man in the relationship might show up and cause a scene (he has a history for being a loose cannon and can do and say some pretty outrageous things).  Thankfully our awesome ushers promised to play double duty and serve as “bouncers” if this person showed up.  I am happy to report that he stayed at home and didn’t cause a problem.

What about crashers that you don’t know?  The random guy stumbling upon your reception and joining in the fun?  How would you feel about that?  Some bees have invited the crashers to join the party and had a blast.  In my last post Mr P and I were curious about the Punk concert going on across the street from our venue so we went over and visited- I guess you could say that we “crashed”.  Apparently some folks in the area were curious about our party too and came to check it out.  Can you really blame them, our band was rockin’!

Guest Photo

I heart my family.  My uncles kept a vigilant eye out during the reception, when there were people walking around our cars in the parking lot they moved outside and kept an eye on things, when Mr P and I snuck off with some mohawked character they concerned.  So when the two guys pictured above showed up at the bar they were concerned.  My uncles immediately pointed them out to me and asked if I knew them.  I didn’t and I figured that I would rather handle the situation myself.  I mozied up to  them as they were getting glasses of our AWESOME beer.

Mrs Pretzel: “Hiya! Are you having a good time?”

Crashers: “Oh yeah!”

Mrs Pretzel: extends hand and says playfully “I’m the bride, who the fu©k are you?”

Crashers: “Umm.. yeah.. ummm…”

Mr Pretzel joins the conversation

Mrs Pretzel: “Yeah, you need to get the fu©k out”

Mr Pretzel: “Well, they can at least stay and finish their beers”

Mrs Pretzel glares at Mr Pretzel playing “good cop” and then has a great idea.

Mrs Pretzel: “Ok, you can finish your beers but for payment you have to take some photos in our photo booth”

Crashers: “Oh ok!”

Photo by

Mrs Pretzel: No, you need to hold this sign.

Crashers read the sign, are none too pleased, but oblige. 

Photo by Usnaps

Mrs Pretzel: K thanks bye!

Let’s be honest, the only reason that I decided they needed to go was that one guy had a messenger bag.  Our gift table was a not in the main area of the reception and the card box was brimming with cards.  The fact that he had a bag made me uncomfortable.  I am glad that I handled it directly and with some humor.  Sure I could have had the DOC or a member of the wedding party handle it but it was kinda fun to call these guys out.  My suggestions:

  • keep calm
  • be direct, let them know that you know that they are crashing. I really love the “I’m the bride, who the heck are you” approach.
  • use humor
  • be flattered, your party looked like so much fun they wanted to join too!

Did you have crashers? What tips can you share with the hive for dealing with crashers?

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June 27, 2011 at 8:58 am Leave a comment

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